Jameela Jamil embraces her ‘shallow, petty and mean’ side after Blake Lively’s savage snub

Jameela Jamil is embracing her “shallow, petty and mean” side.

The actress spoke out over the weekend after her private texts — in which she called Blake Lively a “suicide bomber” — were released amid the “Gossip Girl” alum’s legal battle with Justin Baldoni.

 “I don’t want to be some Hollywood robot, speaking through the lens of a publicist,” Jamil wrote in an essay published to her Substack. “I don’t want to carefully craft my output to have an avatar of myself liked. I want to be liked and loathed for my true self.”

The “Good Place” star, 39, noted that she hates that her “privacy was invaded” when her texts were “unredacted and leaked.” However, she feels “a sense of liberation” from it.

“Not only because I am always trying to cannonball/belly flop off the pedestal I get frequently thrust upon for just giving a s–t,” she explained. “But also, because we need to see more examples of how women talk with their girlfriends when their girlfriends are hurting.”

Jamil said her private messages were “vitriolic” because she was upset and angry that her publicist, who is also her friend, was “being mistreated.”

“I create space for an Itty Bitty S—ty Committee… where nobody is judged for being gratuitously gossipy and shallow and petty and mean, because it’s a safe, private space,” she said. “A victimless crime. I want her to know I am all in. Thelma to her Louise. I will hold her hand all the way off the cliff.”

Jamil described herself as the friend who “holds a grudge for 20 years” against someone who makes her friend cry.

“I call it fempathy. It’s a specifically female experience that I love, and it’s why we don’t have a female loneliness epidemic. Because we ride at dawn for each other,” she explained.

Jamil’s August 2024 text exchange with Baldoni’s publicist, Jennifer Abel, was included in a court filing released last week.

In the conversation, Abel reacted to a TikTok video calling out Lively for being tone-deaf while promoting her film with Baldoni, “It Ends With Us.” (At the time, Lively was criticized for hawking her hair care line and discussing her floral fashion while the film centers on themes of domestic violence.)

Abel texted Jamil, “I want to officially incorporate nightmare c–t and demon c–t into my vocabulary; UNBELIEVABLE; She’s doing this to herself.”

Jamil bluntly replied, “She’s a suicide bomber at this point.”

Abel then reacted to Lively’s response to the backlash, in which the “A Simple Favor” star posted a link to a domestic violence hotline and explained that her character in the movie was more than “just a victim.”

“Did you see Blake post the survivors link?” Abel asked, to which Jamil replied, “Dead,” before adding that Lively’s post was “so cold.”

Abel and Jamil both agreed that they hated Lively” so much,” with Jamil then adding, “I’ve never seen such a bizarre villain act before. She’s Over over.”

A source close to the situation told Page Six last week that Jamil’s catty comments were “disappointing.”

“It’s disappointing that instead of listening to women when they speak out, other women call them names,” the insider said.

However, Jamil immediately went on the defense, and explained in an Instagram Story video that feminism “means fighting for the political, social and economic equity for women. Just gender equity.”

“It does not mean you have to like every single woman,” she continued. “It doesn’t mean you have to be friends with every single woman.”

The activist believes that being a feminist means “you can actually beef with other women.”

“You can criticize them. You can do whatever you want, as long as you are also fighting for their human right to the same things that men have in this world,” she said.

Baldoni, 42, and Lively, 38, have been feuding since filming the 2024 film adaptation of Colleen Hoover’s novel of the same name.

Lively sued Baldoni for alleged sexual harassment in December 2024 — which Baldoni vehemently denied.

The “Jane the Virgin” star countersued Lively and her husband, Ryan Reynolds, for $400 million, accusing them of defamation. He also sued the New York Times for libel after the outlet reported on Lively’s lawsuit against him.

In June 2025, a judge dismissed both of Baldoni’s countersuits, but Lively’s legal battle against the actor is still ongoing.

If you or someone you know is affected by any of the issues raised in this story, call the Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-330-0226.