Jennifer Lopez Regrets Turning Down Movie That Landed Another Actress an Oscar Nomination: ‘It Haunts Me’

Jennifer Lopez is sharing her biggest acting regret — turning down a movie that earned another actress an Oscar nomination.

“[Director] Adrian Lyne offered me Unfaithful,” Lopez told Howard Stern in an interview on Wednesday, October 15, referring to the 2002 erotic thriller starring Richard Gere and Diane Lane.

Lopez, 56, said she turned down the film because “the script wasn’t good” initially, adding that Lyne “then made it great.”

“And Diane Lane got nominated for the Oscar,” the actress and singer said with a laugh.

Stern, 71, asked Lopez, “Is that hard to live with?”

“It’s funny. It haunts me,” Lopez admitted. “It haunts me a little bit, because it’s, like, the one that I turned down. It was just like, ‘Why did you turn down working with Adrian Lyne? What were you thinking?’ I don’t know what was going on in my mind at the time. Who knows what was going on with me at the time?”

Lane, 60, earned critical acclaim for her portrayal of Constance “Connie” Sumner, who cheats on her husband, Edward Sumner, played by Gere. Lane received a Best Actress nomination at the 2003 Academy Awards, however, she lost the Oscar to Nicole Kidman for her role as Virginia Woolf in The Hours. Salma Hayek, Julianne Moore and Renée Zellweger were also nominated that year.

Despite missing out on Unfaithful, Lopez would go on to work with Gere in the 2004 musical comedy Shall We Dance?

Lopez also candidly opened up about her love life during her Wednesday appearance on SiriusXM’s Howard Stern Show.

“Do you think you’ve truly been loved?” Stern asked the star.

After pausing to consider her answer, Lopez replied, “No.”

“What I learned, it’s not that I’m not lovable — it’s that they’re not capable. … They don’t have it in them,” she explained. “And they gave me what they had. They gave me all of it, every time. All the rings, all the things I could ever want. The houses, the rings, the marriage. All of it.”

Lopez admitted she “didn’t love” herself, which complicated her four marriages, including her most recent union with Ben Affleck. (The couple finalized their divorce in January.)

“When I got divorced this last time, it was the best thing that ever happened to me,” Lopez said. “Because it really made me journey into — I mean, I had a religious coach, I had a therapist, a couples therapist, an individual therapist, I had a coach to understand addiction. I had everything. I was like, ‘I’m gonna f***ing figure this s*** out if it kills me.’”

Despite her split from Affleck, the actor and director recently supported Lopez at the New York City premiere of her new movie, Kiss of a Spider Woman, which was produced by his production company, Artists Equity.

“She’s fabulous. And it’s an enormously difficult — it’s all these masters, so it’s not edited in such a way where you can make a little mistake here and there in the dance,” Affleck praised Lopez on the red carpet in an interview with E! News. “It’s singing and dancing and acting and also trying to hold together these multiple tones in the movie. That’s just probably the maximum level of difficulty for a performer.”