Meghan Trainor Says Feeling ‘Sexy’ Is a ‘Fantasy’ as a Mom of 3: ‘There’s Not a Lot of Time’ (Exclusive)

Meghan Trainor is pulling back the curtain on when she feels sexiest as a mom of three with husband Daryl Sabara.

“There’s not a lot of time for sexiness when you have [kids that are] 5, 2 and a newborn,” Trainor, 32, exclusively shared in Us Weekly’s latest cover story. “And I think anyone with a kid under 5 knows what I’m talking about in marriage. So it is rare.”

Trainor’s latest album, Toy With Me (out April 24), features a track called “Pink Cadillac,” which is an interpretation of Bruce Springsteen‘s 1984 song of the same name but is very sexy and cheeky.

“I write a lot of these hot songs,” she told Us. “I wish I felt this sexy all the time, but I know Daryl and I will have our time when the kids are older, you know? But it’s like a fantasy of mine. It’s like a dream of mine someday to feel … that hot again with my husband, and some nights I do. I don’t want to say once a month, but a couple times a month.”

Trainor and Sabara welcomed daughter Mikey via surrogate in January, joining sons Riley, 5, and Barry, 2. Ahead of adding their youngest child to their family, Trainor and Sabara, 33, decided to pursue couples therapy.

“We started [during surrogacy] because we realized we were living in different realities,” she explained to Us. “Even in our fights, it was like, ‘Hey, we’re not even fighting about the same thing …’ When you have little kids, every single thing is a decision. We almost got into a fight this morning because one of my kids has diarrhea, and [Daryl] wanted to feed him chocolate waffles. And I said, ‘Is that the best idea?’”

She continued, “With our counselor, there were so many deep-rooted things that we were too scared to tell each other. He told us, ‘When you break through, it’ll be the greatest love you’ve ever felt.’ I was like, ‘We’re so scrambled right now, I can’t picture that happening, but OK.’ He was 100 percent right. Now we can look at each other and read each other’s mind and be like, ‘We’re safe.’”

Trainor gushed that Sabara, with whom she tied the knot in 2018, is constantly helping validate her.

“Anytime I’m near him, especially at night or even in his sleep, he will always want to touch me or tell me how beautiful I am,” she said. “Every night he passes out at, like, 9, and I get up multiple times to go because I’ve had babies. Every time I get back in bed, I wake him up a little bit, but not enough to be alive. And then he always rolls over and grabs me and is like, ‘You’re the only one I want forever and always. I need you now.’ And I’m like, ‘What? You’re snoring.’ So cute. It’s a nice relief to be confidently loved. I know I’m the one he’s obsessed with, and he’s the one I’m obsessed with.”

For Trainor, being “obsessed” with each other also meant installing two toilets side-by-side in their bathroom at a previous house — which she said she misses “so much.”

“There was a place for a bidet, and I never used a bidet, so I had an extra toilet in my move, and I just popped it where the bidet was. It was when we had our babies,” she explained. “When you get up all night for your babies and you have to pee a million times, and so does your husband — I will not fight you over the toilet this time, and I’m gonna put two toilets in here. It was the best decision I ever made. Anyone who doesn’t understand doesn’t know what real love is.”

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